7 Things to say (and Not to say) to a grieving friend (part 1)

It hard enough trying to console a grieving pal, finding the right words to say makes it even harder. I personally have found myself in that situation of  searching for the right words to say..........      
Here are a list of some things people say that are well-intended but not so good.
1. Not so good - 'God will never give you more than you can handle'
 It is better to say - 'This must be hard for you'
2.Not so good - 'I'm sure it's all for the best' (at that point, the grieving person doesn't see that anything is for the best except to have his/her loved one back).
It is better to say- 'It's hard to understand why these things happen'
3.No so good - 'He is in a better place' or ' just be happy he isn't in pain anymore'
It is better to say - 'you must miss him terribly.
4. Not so good - say nothing at all. (this is really bad).
It's better to say - I'm not sure what to say but I want you to know I'm here for you.
5.Not so good - I know exactly how you feel (even if you too have experienced a loss, each person has their own unique path to travel).
6.Not so good - 'you 'll feel better soon'(try not to dismiss his\her grieve).
It is better to say - 'I'll be here for you as long as you need me'
7.'Don't you think you should be over it by now?'
It is better to say - 'I know this is really painful for you'
Stick with better things to say to a grieving friend and you will not only feel better but also help him/her heal faster.